Monday, June 14, 2010

Ready for Change?

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes. Turn and face the strange changes.

The lyrics to David Bowie’s famous song have been ringing in my head these past few days since there are just a couple of changes going on around here.

Coming home from the last graduation party yesterday, realizing that this group of kids will never be together again, has left me just a bit melancholy. And so the lyrics ring.


Wondering what will happen in the future. Excited, yes, but still . . . wondering.


Watching one pack up her things to leave for the summer. Very strange, indeed.

And face . . .

Getting one ready to go forever. Sure, she’ll be back, but things will be different.

. . . the strange changes.

I’ve never been good with change. Just ask my husband. I’ve never lived outside of this state. I’ve never even lived more than 60 miles from where I grew up.

For me, change signals danger somehow. Fear. Uneasiness. I truly admire those who can face change with excitement, anticipation even.

Me? Not so much.

And yet, here it is. Probably the summer of some of the biggest changes in our family’s life so far. I’m not dreading it, but I’m not excited about it either.

I guess you’d say I’m just very aware of it.

So I’m turning and facing the changes.

How about you? How do you handle change? Any tips for this mom?



  1. Nope. No tips! :) But I can empathize. Not with a daughter graduating, obviously. But with not being comfortable with change, and seeing it coming anyway. That’s just about where I am right now!

  2. It's a life-long process isn't it? Learning to accept whatever change is next. We can't grow without it...but it's so hard :)

  3. I've heard change compared to flying on a trapeze. Does that make you feel any better? Sometimes the anticipation is the worst part. But transition brings new and good things too. For one, we see our kids grow through and can be amazed at what they are capable of.

  4. Shelly, you're doing just fine. Take one day at a time and don't borrow frustration by worrying about the changes tomorrow holds. Just face today's. It does get a little hard right about now. Our son is home from college this summer, but I realize it is probably his last. He is itching to spend his summer away on internships and I'm thrilled for the prospects, still....

    Hold 'em loosely dear friend. That's all we can do.

  5. I'm at a place where change is the norm and the prospect of anything staying the same would be strange. I often say that my phone number has been the only constant in my life over the last six years. Thank goodness for cell phones! I just take it with me as I move around the country!

  6. Awww, thanks for the words of wisdom, friends. It does help to know that I'm not alone in this. Being a mom is HARD!!

  7. Wow - I feel for you. I'm not experienced at dealing with change either, but I appreciated your readers' suggestions. Have a wonderful summer - bet you'll savor every moment with your kids. :)