Friday, May 2, 2014

"Time to Let Go" at the Mothers of Daughters blog today

On the day my oldest daughter was born, I sat in the hospital room holding her close, and I said the most unexpected and strange words to my husband.
“I feel like my job from now on is to teach her to not need me.”
Not exactly the words you’d expect from a first-time mother holding her newborn.
In fact, you might expect the opposite reaction:
“This world is so dangerous; I need to protect her.”
“People are bound to hurt her; I must hold her close.”
“She might not feel loved; I must smother her with affection.”
I suppose that growing up with parents who encouraged my independence might have contributed to my own parenting instincts. I suppose that losing a sibling at a young age may have affected my parenting style as well.
But in that hospital room twenty-two years ago, I had a very deep sense that the Lord was speaking something important into my life. . . .


You all know I write at the Mothers of Daughters blog once a month, right? *wink wink* This month I'm writing about letting go. It's been on my mind just a little bit lately since my oldest will be graduating from college next week and moving out of the house this summer. I'll probably write more about that next week, but join me over there today to read the rest of this post.

And while you're at it, pass the Kleenex.

1 comment:

  1. I needed to be reminded of this today Shelly. Today is our son's last day of college. Next Saturday he graduates. And this weekend he is moving out of our house into a house he has purchased. Next Sunday, our daughter graduates from high school and in August she will be moving to college about 2 hours away. The thought of her living away from home, in a dorm, scares the heck out of me. I don't know how I will let either of them go. They have been my life for 21 years. And by the end of August they will both be out of our house and on their own. I love them both with all my heart, and want SO BADLY to protect them from all that is evil in the world. I worry about car accidents. I worry about my beautiful daughter, and all of the horrible things that happen on college campuses. And it makes me want to hold on to them so tightly. And yet I know that is not the answer. Jesus has protected them their entire lives. Even though I like to think it's been me, I know it has been Him. And I know that He will watch over them now. I have to let go. And it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Thanks for reminding me that I'm not the first mama to experience this, and I won't be the last. And please keep sharing your words of wisdom with me. I appreciate you!